The Beauty in Pain

As a society we hate resistance, adversity, and hard times. This is one of the reasons working out is so hard to get into the routine of doing. It’s not easy, it takes work, and it’s not always pleasant at the time. Over the years of dealing with adversity and hardship I have learned that it’s not something that we should fear. Hardship stretches us and causes us to grow in ways we never imagined possible. If we are never challenged, we are never aware of the strength we actually have.

Anxiety is fear, and fear is a liar. When we are faced with the unknowns of this life, we start to hear voices in our head: voices that are say we will fail, voices that say everything is falling apart, voices that tell us to just give up. Truth is is that these unknowns are not easy. Life might feel like it’s falling apart, but the truth is life is actually not. Many times these moments are hardship, or rock bottom.  But these can open doors for some of our greatest adventure to come. Have you ever had something fall through in your life such as a relationship, job, or opportunity, and at the time it felt like the worst thing ever, but then after some time had past you realized it was actually the best thing that could have happened to you. Maybe a relationship falling apart, meant you ended up finding your future spouse, maybe you didn’t get that job you wanted, but found out later the company went completely under because of fraud. Sometimes when I catch myself ruminating about future problems I start to see on the horizon I try to stop and tell myself:

A. that is “future Laura’s” problem

B. I remind myself of all the times in the past I have wasted time worrying about how something was going to turn out, and in the end it ended up not even being an issue at all.

This is mindfulness. We need to live in the present moment, loosen up our grip of control, and work on seeing hardship from a different perspective.

With weight loss, many of these same principles apply. How many times have you started a diet, and when you stepped on the scale after a really good week of sticking to your plan you find out your didn’t lose an ounce. This is adversity, this is hardship, but the things in life that are the hardest are the things most worth fighting for. How many times did you start a workout routine, and after being completely exhausted after the first week of completing it you decided it was way too difficult to keep going with, and told yourself the lie that you weren’t meant to be a “gym” person. When truth is, is that if you kept going through the hardship and sore muscles, you would see progress you never imagined you could see. So my take away: embrace hardship, work on being present in the moment, and overcome obstacles in your way that your future self will be thanking you for not giving up.
By: Laura Goossens, LCSW